Over the course of the next few months we will follow along with one mother’s journey through divorce and the painful truth of mother/child separation. Here, she will share the unspoken reality of many who are still breastfeeding their children without having full custody, and the impact it has on everyone involved.
It is not my intention to point fingers or lessen the importance of daddies in a child’s life, rather to shed some light on a very real, very staggering truth of the legal system and their stance on nursing while divorcing .
The courts are inundated with cases of divorce .. they don’t have time to care .
I am a nursing mother to Emerson Merrick .. she is almost 18 months old .
Emerson nurses all day and all night .. except for the time she is with her father, which is too long a time to be away from me and the breast .
She will not drink from a bottle .. nor will she drink my breast milk from any form of cup .
Why ? Because it is about the bond of the mother to child .. as I am quite sure that you are keenly aware and quite frankly, so are a lot of people at this point in time .
I would like to come from the angle of a compassionate one .. regarding the pain of the father not being with a child .. but also, a truthful look at the effects of the transition for the child.
I would like to educate .. inform .
Our court system is jaded .. antiquated even .
Especially when you are assigned a male judge // a female mediator who has never married nor has children who could care less about the choices that they are making for complete strangers who step foot into their offices // courtroom .
I am not bitter .
I am saddened and appalled at the carelessness for which they go about their decisions .
I do understand their positions, but that does not make it good // right .
I am also very aware that there are fathers that are the primary care givers fighting for their cause as well .. for there are mothers out there who are not fit .
This is not a battle of the sexes collaboration .. this is about truth .
Simply, a look into the life of divorce and breastfeeding .
Who is right ? Who is wrong .
Children need both parents .
I want for my daughter to have a good relationship with her father ..
But unfortunately when it comes to matters of the heart, there is not always a rationale that is balanced .
Hence, the court system .
Their job is to take out the emotion in decision making for our children .
Only, the pendulum has swung too far in the wrong direction .